Self-reflection and Starting Fresh: Jos Gets Real on Just Jossin’ Around

Joslyne (Jos) delivers an unfiltered, honest, and hilarious solo episode that serves as both a personal check-in and a masterclass in self-reflection. What starts as an impromptu studio session, sparked by a scheduling error, turns into a deep dive into mental health, creative burnout, comedy dreams, reality TV obsessions, and the pursuit of joy and healing.

This isn’t your typical podcast episode. Jos speaks candidly about depression, personal growth, artistic insecurities, and finding clarity in chaos—all while managing to keep listeners laughing through the mess. It’s raw, funny, and refreshingly real.

 

Back in the Studio—and Back on the Mic

Jos kicks off the episode by explaining how this recording came to be: a calendar mix-up left her with unexpected studio time, so she decided to hop on the mic and check in with her listeners. Although she’s been sitting on a handful of recorded episodes (with guests like Zach Peterson and Brad Wenzel), she hasn’t had the bandwidth to edit or release them. Her dream of producing her own podcast, once so exciting, now feels like a grind, and she’s honest about needing help to keep it going.

Despite the burnout, Jos reaffirms that podcasting is her art form. It’s cathartic, fun, and necessary for her mental health. And in that spirit, she launches into a wide-ranging solo episode full of updates, insight, and surprising vulnerability.

 

Vegas, Drag, and Emotional Healing

Jos recently returned from a trip to Las Vegas to visit her family, a much-needed reset. Highlights included seeing Deftones live and attending RuPaul’s Drag Race Live, which moved her to tears. For Jos drag is more than performance—it’s inspiration. She reflects on the transformative power of drag, celebrating it as the ultimate art form where comedy, makeup, music, and movement converge.

This leads to a moment of self-reflection: watching drag queens pour so much effort into their craft makes her feel embarrassed about her own “greased hair and jean jacket” approach to comedy gigs. She admits she’s been in what she calls “gross mode,” not feeling confident or “cute,” and struggling with self-image.

 

A Space of Her Own

A major life update for Jos is her recent move into a new apartment—one she’s dreamed of since college. The unit once belonged to her friend Jake, and living there now feels like a full-circle moment. She also happens to live next door to an ex, but she laughs it off and insists, “She’ll never see me.”

The new apartment symbolizes independence and healing. Jos explains that she’s always needed her own space to stay grounded, and after years of roommates and chaos, having a peaceful environment is something she deeply cherishes. It’s also a sign of how far she’s come. “I didn’t think I’d live this long,” she confesses at one point, recounting dark nights during college when she didn’t think she’d make it. Her tone is casual, but the moment is heavy with truth—and triumph.

 

Redefining Success, Setting New Goals

Now that she’s achieved goals she once thought unreachable, Jos is facing a new challenge: what’s next? She speaks about the need to set new aspirations, while also acknowledging that her past goals—like landing this apartment—might seem small to others but were monumental to her. There’s humility in her honesty and power in her perspective.

She shares that she originally started stand-up comedy while in a suicidal mental space. Comedy was, and continues to be, a lifeline. Today, although she’s dealing with stress and hormonal shifts, she’s excited to get back to performing and has new material ready for open mics. She also has travel dates lined up in cities like Minneapolis, Detroit, and Las Vegas—all part of her 2025 mission to get on more stages, meet new people, and expand her creative network.

 

Navigating Friendships and Jealousy

Jos doesn’t shy away from naming the emotional toll of friendships gone sour. She discusses feeling burned by people who couldn’t be happy for her success, recounting situations where her achievements were met with jealousy and bitterness. “Cut them out,” she advises anyone who encounters that energy.

She’s reevaluating who she gives her time and energy to and embracing solitude as a form of healing. She expresses admiration for her family, particularly her stepmom, whose drive and positivity energize her. Being around loved ones, cooking together, laughing—it all grounds her.

 

Self-Worth, Healing, and Romantic Detachment

Romantic relationships are also a source of introspection. Jos admits she’s probably going to stay single for a while. Despite people trying to love her in ways she deserves, she finds herself emotionally unable to receive it—clear evidence, she says, that she still has healing to do. It’s a recurring theme: wanting to feel like a “bad bitch” again, but knowing she has internal work to do first.

Her reflections aren’t just confined to relationships. She’s trying to feel better in her own skin—literally. After eating out for months due to an uncomfortable living situation, she’s excited to return to cooking and feeling healthy again. “I’ll be sexy by summer,” she jokes, already putting that manifestation into motion.

 

Bravo Obsession and Pop Culture Commentary

The final section of the episode veers into Jos’s deep dive into the world of Bravo. From Vanderpump Rules to Summer House, Married to Medicine, and Real Housewives of Atlanta, she gives her unfiltered takes on the drama, love triangles, and messy reality TV plotlines that captivate her. She insists that Southern Hospitality is the best show on Bravo right now and defends her obsession with reality TV as a kind of sociological study.

Her commentary is sharp, funny, and laced with enough detail to show how invested she is. She’s passionate about these shows not just for their entertainment, but for how they reveal human behavior—and sometimes, even mirrors of her own experiences.

 

Looking Ahead

Jos ends the episode with optimism. She’s going to start releasing podcast episodes regularly again (Fridays are the new drop day), and she’s excited to share interviews she’s recorded with other comics. Her job producing podcasts—especially ones in the Bravo universe—is keeping her busy and fulfilled. Even if her clients are chaotic (only 2% of the time, she jokes), she’s enjoying the ride.

There’s also a goal to hit 1,000 Twitter followers. Why? Because in the comedy world, follower counts still matter. Jos knows it’s superficial, but she’s honest about wanting that validation—and needing that bump to be taken seriously.

 

A Solo Episode with Soul

This week’s Just Jossin’ Around is more than a life update—it’s an open-hearted look at what it means to keep moving forward even when things feel messy. Jos is vulnerable, witty, and grounded in the real work of healing and growth. She’s not pretending to have it all figured out—but she’s showing up, telling the truth, and making space for joy in the process.

For listeners, it’s a reminder that we’re all just figuring it out. And sometimes, all it takes is a mic, a moment, and a little bit of Just Jossin’ Around.

 

This blog post is based on a transcript from the Just Jossin’ Around podcast episode released on March 24th 2025.

We often take life too seriously and forget to stop and laugh at the silly things in life. If you’re looking to add a little lighthearted brevity to your day, come share a laugh with host and comedian, Joslyne DeBonis. Each episode we’ll be joined by a special guest, typically comedians, that will bring their stories and wit!

Edited by Grace Dunbar